Do you get up every morning, have breakfast reading the news and always eating the same things? It is normal, change is sometimes disorienting, while routine gives safety and it’s not just about what we do, but also the way we express ourselves and relate to others. “Habits are useful because they allow us to effortlessly carry out a series of repetitive activities of our daily life. But if we are not careful, they can become emotional prisons that are difficult to get out of, ”explains the doctor Patrizia Vaccaropsychotherapist in Milan.
In fact, habits can turn into an obstacle to our need to change. And i changes they are the fertile ground in which ours flourish resources, they make us grow », concludes the expert. So, you start small and challenge yourself with these three exercises.
- Open up to the new
Find 10 minutes a day to come up with one new experience that makes you feel good. It doesn’t have to be disruptive to your routine. For example, during a break you go out for a walk and observe what is happening around you or go to lunch with a colleague you never hang out with, you might be surprised.
- Review your prioritiesCompile a list of your daily activities and rank them in order of pleasantness. Now start from the bottom to analyze the most annoying and for each of these ask yourself: “Do I have to do it by force? Can I postpone it at another time or do it differently? “. For example, if it comes to weekly shopping, you could choose a different day or time than usual (perhaps that is more convenient for you).
- Explore with curiosity
Relationships often stiffen on ways of communication that are always the same. For example, when your child comes home from school, instead of asking him how it went (and receiving the ritual response “good”), he tries to rephrase the question: “Why don’t you tell me something good that happened today?”. In this way, you give yourself and the other the opportunity to explore a new relational space.