It can be good to draw inspiration from other cultures to enrich yourself and learn new life lessons. When it comes to relationships, the Japanese method called Kintsugi has many virtues, which can be applied to strengthen your relationship.
In Japan, there is a principle called Kintsugi, which could be translated as “golden reparation” in French. This method takes its name from the ancient Japanese art of repairing broken porcelain using gold powder and lacquer. A principle that can be applied in your relationship.
Apply this Japanese principle to make your relationship last
In Psychology Today magazine, psychologist Mark Travers gives more details on the benefits of this method on life as a couple. The latter is not a long, quiet river: on the contrary, it is strewn with pitfalls and difficulties.
But what must be remembered, according to him, is the “beauty in imperfection and in the process of repair”. You understand: if life as a couple is difficult, it is possible to overcome the obstacles and make it better. For the expert, it is essential to “celebrate imperfections” with the aim of “accessing happiness”.
“You shouldn’t expect everything to be perfect, whether it’s yourself or your partner.” assures Mark Travers. On the contrary, he reminds us that a couple relationship requires “effort, patience and love to overcome challenges.”
Three essential principles should guide you
To achieve this method, the psychologist recommends applying three principles. Must therefore :
- Demonstrate resilience, to accept the challenges of life;
- Celebrate imperfections, so as not to seek perfection at all costs, an attitude that is a source of frustration;
- And honor the transformation, to find the positive in all situations and have gratitude.
By applying these three foundations, life as a couple will be sweeter and more fulfilled and according to the psychologist, the relationship will be even more lasting.
