Ho’oponopono method: four words to find inner peace

Ho'oponopono method: four words to find inner peace

An argument with your partner, a conflict at work, a thought that doesn’t go through… There are many situations that can cause negative emotions, or even real blockages. What if you tried the Ho’oponopono method? This ancestral Hawaiian tradition involves taking full responsibility for one’s actions and letting go of limiting beliefs to reconnect with oneself and others. Explanations.

From an ancestral tradition aimed at resolving conflicts within a community, or even a family, the Ho’oponopono method has gradually evolved into a philosophy of life, and even a practice of personal development. But the basic objective is always the same, it is to eliminate certain limiting beliefs (or memories) using a mantra to find inner peace and resolve situations considered stressful or conflicts with others. . This philosophy of life is somehow based on introspection and accountability, the key coming from oneself – and oneself – and not from others.


If we refer to Hawaiian Dictionaries, the term “ho’opono” can be translated as “fair”, “respectable”, “correct”, “right”, or even “to behave correctly”. But it is actually more precisely a tradition aimed at overcoming certain conflicts (professional), relationship problems (an impending breakup) and other difficult situations (a death) through introspection. “Ho’oponopono is the practice of sincere apologies and true forgiveness. It is used today by many families and in recent decades has spread throughout the world“, we can read in an article published on the Psychology Today platform.

When to use it?

As said previously, the Ho’oponopono method is today considered a philosophy of life, so there are no limits or restrictions, whether for adults or children. Any unpleasant situation, whether it affects your mind or your emotions, can justify resorting to this personal development practice. “When sincere, ho’oponopono rectifies and helps heal the person asking for forgiveness or everyone involved in the process“, indicates the American magazine.

How it works ?

If this method is based on four words, to be repeated to oneself (and in silence) tirelessly, it is not only about stating them to feel better and resolve conflicts – whether internal or relational. This practice requires a certain introspection, and is based on becoming aware of one’s responsibility in this or that action, in this or that situation. Once this principle has been integrated, it is possible to move on to the famous mantra. It is then a matter of repeating over and over, in your head, the following four words: sorry, pardon, thank you, I love you, whenever you encounter a situation likely to affect you. As we have seen, the idea is to eliminate certain beliefs that can lock you in, or even encourage these difficult situations.

Good in his body, good in his head!

To know more

Today there are numerous works that allow you to become familiar with Ho’oponopono: “Ho’oponopono – the Hawaiian ritual of forgiveness” by Ulrich Emil Duprée (Editions Contre-Dires), “Ho’oponopono explained to children” by Luc Bodin and Amandine Schindelholz (Editions Trédaniel) or even “Le grand livre d’Hooponopono” by Luc Bodin, Jean Graciet and Nathalie Lamboy (Editions Jouvence).