Almost all of us know an inseparable couple, where both partners are always together. But do you really have to do everything together, especially going out with friends? Here is the answer.
It’s a fact: some people, when they are in a relationship, like to do everything with the other person. To the point of taking him out on outings with friends, even when this person is not really expected or invited. When you like to spend all your time with your partner, should you invite them everywhere you go or, on the contrary, is it better to avoid this kind of situation?
A habit that can be frustrating for others
Whether for an evening, a shopping trip or a meal at a restaurant with friends, some people need to be accompanied by their partner. But this kind of situation can be frustrating for the friend (or friends) in question, when he invites a person and they arrive accompanied.
“It can be frustrating for a friend who wanted to spend some time alone with you to talk openly and honestly, to see the two of you arrive.” writes Wendy L. Patrick, in an article in Psychology Today. She also cites a study published in 2012, which examines “unhealthy dependence on others, to meet one’s emotional needs.”
What are the reasons why you should avoid this?
Beyond these psychological aspects, there are certain reasons which should push you to separate your life as a couple from your social life. At events organized by your company, it may be frowned upon to bring your spouse.
“This type of event is sometimes planned only for employees, so it is better to clarify this in advance, before bringing your partner” she notes again. Even during less formal events, it is possible that your host has not planned an additional person. Here again, it is therefore better to ask the question, to avoid any awkwardness.