Are you ready to meet new people, but the “date” phase stresses you out in advance? There is a simple tip to view these moments with much more serenity.
If you are single, perhaps you are also looking for the new encounter that ignites the famous romantic spark. You still have to meet new people, which remains a challenge for some. Even more so if you dread “dates”, their preparation, and getting stuck in a restaurant with someone you meet on the web. However, there is a new habit, revealed by the latest Tinder report on romantic encounters, so that these dates no longer weigh too much on your morale. It’s called “stack dating.”
Stack dating, a date with special timing
Stack dating is more or less similar to the old speed dating, which consisted of meeting several suitors in a row in a short time to quickly get an idea. In this new version, it’s about inserting your romantic dates right in the middle of your schedule, between two work meetings, during your lunch break, or just before a shopping trip. A habit which is also becoming more popular since 51% of Tinder users, aged 18 to 25, say they integrate their dates to their already fixed schedule, and not the other way around. One in three also admits to fitting their date into their work day.
With what effect? Much more serenity according to the fans. Thus limited, the appointment is no longer the important point of the day, but one more event integrated into your schedule. For Cosmopolitan US, this allows us to release the pressure, to no longer worry about choosing an outfit, and to no longer put all our hopes in THE meeting. Ultimately, this would also be the way to arrive more comfortable and authentic on your date. So why not try it?
Be careful not to make it a non-event however.
However, there is a flip side to this trend which promises more serenity: while relieving pressure is a good thing, it is not a question of falling into total indifference from the people you may meet. Giving a mini window of 15 minutes before taking the metro, for example, can give this impression. “This may indicate that you don’t really care about making the date special or getting to know the person.” points out Paul Brunson, consultant and relationship expert for Tinder.
Give yourself a short window in your day, sure, but still give yourself the opportunity to feel a thrill. At the risk of missing out on a great encounter.