Although it is not easy to sort out your friendships, an easy and quick test nevertheless allows you to see things more clearly.
Do some friends drain all your energy? Distort your words as soon as your back is turned? Or never question themselves? Caution. They may be toxic. Learn how to spot them and get them out of your life with this handy tip.
A tip that allows you to access “happiness”
According to writer and hypnotist Paul McKenna, a specific technique allowed him to determine who makes him happy in his life.
These are Connection Circles.
“It’s deceptively simple, but for me it was a major wake-up call. They will help you “spend time with people who will allow you to access your inner happiness with the greatest ease””, he confides.
Good in his body, good in his head!
How to perform the test?
The technique is as follows:
- Draw three circles. The first, very large, must contain the name of your main acquaintances (your colleagues, cousins, etc.). What you know by sight or from a distance, but to which you are not particularly close.
- The second circle – smaller – represents your friendship circle. These people are important to you, you have common interests. You know each other’s lives well.
- Finally, the smallest of circles is intended for your close friends. Your childhood and lifelong friends, those who know your qualities and faults perfectly. It’s about “circle of people who will always be there for you (…) and you will always be there for them, no matter what“, details the writer.
After you have done this, then identify the category of people you spend the most time with.
If it’s your acquaintances – relatively superficial relationships – and not those close to you, it means, according to Paul McKenna, that you are spending too much time on the wrong people and for the wrong reasons.
For him, this test was revealing. He realized that he had “spent a lot of time with acquaintances and not with real friends.”
He also noticed that he had “many more real friends” than he thought, the majority of whom resided in the United Kingdom and Europe.
“I decided then and there to return to Britain and became much happier“, he explains.
If in reality, such mobility is not necessarily possible, spending quality time with loved ones – now identified – remains a good thing.
This exercise actually has the advantage of giving priority to people who really do “part of your life“, he further specifies.
Fact, “happiness will be much easier to access“, concludes the writer.