Between the metro-work-sleep routine and your endless weekend habits, are you starting to get bored in your relationship? Good news: this feeling is not irrevocable, assures Amélie Boukhobza, clinical psychologist.
At the table, you have nothing more to say to each other. On the sofa, neither for that matter. You have been experiencing this anxiety-inducing heaviness for several months. How is this possible, you who had so much to say to yourselves? Are these the beginnings of the end? No, of course. However, efforts must be made on both sides to overcome boredom, believes our psychologist expert.
Boredom is not a sign of disenchantment
First good news: boredom is not only temporary, but also a common feeling.
“Boredom is a non-pathological feeling that anyone can experience., explains psychiatrist Bernard Granger, to our colleagues at Psychologies magazine. “It corresponds to the painful perception of the gravity of time: each second seems to last an eternity.”
This feeling therefore has nothing to do with reality. Weariness does not signify the end of the couple, because love can always be present.
When boredom creeps in, we don't necessarily “dislove”.
An opinion, validated by our expert, Amélie Boukhobza, on condition, of course, of reversing the balance.
Explore new common interests
To counter boredom in a couple, the clinical psychologist explains that it is appropriate:
- To differentiate everyday life from habits. “Why not by exploring new common interests: cooking classes, couples dancing or sports? It seems that shared activities of an extreme nature, that is to say those which provoke adrenaline, strengthen romantic bonds. So bungee jumping, climbing or skydiving, everything is good to do…“, advises the expert.
- Establish couple rituals: cinema, theater or other: “A weekly evening just for two is ideal! Not to mention romantic weekends from time to time to relax and recharge the couple's batteries“, confides the specialist.
- Breaking out of habits: “Little surprises, gifts for no reason, sweet words and other little touches that can rekindle the flame“, specifies Amélie Boukhobza.
- Discuss everything and nothing: “From a radio show, a film, a book or the couple when it is necessary…“, she believes.
- Start by saying good morning to each other and good night at bedtime: “The couple must be taken care of!“, concludes the expert.
